While a number of ideas might be common and useful in all marriages such as a need for Budgeting, there are aspects of a Desi wedding that are so unique that none of the books and websites or magazines even came close to addressing our needs.
Hence this Blog.
This Blog is aimed at the American Desi community. American Desi's are the community which belongs to the greater Indian subcontinent and have immigrated to America and is now settled here in North America. These Desi (pronounced "Day Si") include former citizens of India, Pakistan, Bangladesh and Sri Lanka.
And the term American here applies to the US as well as Canada.
Desi belong to a multitude of religions with each religion having its own unique requirements of wedding rituals.
Because of personal knowledge limitation this Blog attempts to be a guide for the Muslims among the American Desi.
Although India's many languages also stamps its own imprint on the marriage ritual this impact on this narrative is not such as to affect the reference portion of the object of this effort. Where some clear distinctions are known to me to create a decision point, clearly it will be necessary to point that out and I will do so.
Creating a 'shaadi' ceremony is not an easy task but will be made simpler through gentle guidance based on our experience. Here we will provide you with guidance to the rich traditions of Desi culture. Although you may adjust it to your own belonging to those traditions, woven within the ceremonies may be values from your own paradigm that you have claimed as your own that have contributed to who you have become as well as seeds that you want to plant for the future.
And so here is a chronicle of one Desi Father's experience of his Desi daughter planning for the big day. This is the day many little girls in reality start planning when they are so young they only know about the wedding day not the marriage. In fact fathers across the spectrum have a sneaky suspicion that the wedding day is the main object not the marriage.
